Public Speaking

Ali’s engaging vulnerability as a partner and her expertise in gender and identity, create a community environment for public listening. Telling her personal story as her partner transitioned from female to male, Ali creates safe spaces for education and communication. As a society, we yearn for connectedness… Ali is opening conversations that generate gender awareness, thought provoking ideas and unified communities. Ali’s engaging vulnerability as a partner and her expertise in gender and identity, create a community environment for public listening. Telling her personal story as her partner transitioned from female to male, Ali creates safe spaces for education and communication. As a society, we yearn for connectedness… Ali is opening conversations that generate gender awareness, thought provoking ideas and unified communities.

 

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COUPLES SPEAKING…

GENDER: What is gender? Where does it come from? Digging deeper than the basic information to reframe the cultural assumptions around gender and why this is relevant today.

SEXUALITY: LGBTQIA?? Illuminating the differences between biological sex and sexual identity, and creating inclusive language to empower allies.

DECONSTRUCTING THE BINARY: Boy/Girl? Pink/Blue? What about all the other options? Education on non-binary and gender fluid identities, and why they must be included in the conversation. 

IDENTITY: Where do we find our identity? If my partner changes, what happens to my own identity? Illuminating what identity is and how we can define it for ourselves.

RELATIONSHIPS: How can we understand each other? Why differences actually strengthen our relationships, and how this awareness can work.

RESILIENCE: Can we survive this? How do we move forward? How to revive and thrive using time and healing.  

 

ENDORSEMENTS…

“Ali zeros in on the fundamentals of enduring, romantic love regardless of life’s unexpected twists. Hers is a lesson for all of us who are lucky enough to look back at love and its evolution with our partners. A skilled storyteller, Ali has the ability to tell an intimate personal tale in a way that has global relevance.” -Ian Edwards, Producer, TEDx Provincetown

“In the last few years many of us have had to reconsider a notion that we took for granted as an absolute fact, namely that is gender assigned at birth and is henceforth rigidly fixed: that everyone is either man or woman, male or female. But gender identity is far more complex than the mere description of a person’s genitalia or whom we have sex with. Gender is who we are. While the media often presents stories of people who have made gender transitions, its rare to hear the stories of their partners: those people who fall in love with a person who transitions, only to face issues that rock their own lives to the core. Ali Sands has presented us with a poignant and searching account of a brave woman who almost lost her own identity even as she helped the love of her life establish his.” -Ira Wood, The Lowdown, WOMR-FM

Ali is an inspiration for anyone going through a challenging life change. She was able to work through her feelings with honesty, and let love triumph! -Amy Mesirow, PFLAG President Emeritus, PFLAG Cape Cod, Former PLFLAG Regional Director NE

“Sands’ story is…[an] unflinching view into the rollercoaster of a rapidly changing relationship. Sands spares no detail, from weekly testosterone injections to reconstructive surgeries to her own emotional challenges as [her partner] begins to navigate the world as a man. -Sofia Starmack, Journalist, Provincetown Banner

 

Presenting a unique opportunity for any audience, Ali’s partner Rhys is invited onstage with Ali for an intimate glimpse into their experience as a couple going through transition. Affectionately relating different sides of the same story, Ali and Rhys show how autonomy can be achieved in a healthy relationship, and why gender is not always an issue in matters of love. Through humor, compassion and insight, Ali and Rhys use their experience in order to educate and build allies for the LGBTQ community. An incredible and rare experience to witness and understand each perspective of a transgender relationship.

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ali & rhys

 

Featured Events…

  • lgbt reading series, hamline university, st. paul mn

  • lgbtq panel member, university of minnesota

  • fresh fruit radio interview, kfai fresh air radio, minneapolis, mn

  • fantasia fair, guest presenter, provincetown, ma

  • the lowdown with ira wood, womr provincetown, ma

  • keynote speaker, pflag cape cod annual meeting, hyannis, ma

  • inside the pages, guest author/speaker, wellfleet preservation hall, wellfleet ma

  • keynote speaker, paul hush memorial forum, brewster, ma

  • transgender issues in our changing society, guest speaker, wellfleet public library, wellfleet, ma

  • first parish brewster, guest youth group speaker, brewster, ma

  • guest speaker, 1st congregational church ucc, anoka, mn

  • philadelphia transgender health conference, guest presenter, philadelphia, pa

  • keynote speaker, orleans, ma